MOM IN DISTRESS!!!!!!
Today I am posting about a personal problem that I’ve been dealing with over the past month or so.. I found out that my 12 year old daughter had a web page on black planet (similar to my space) except I guess it’s for blacks. Well, I’d never heard of that site so my husband happened to run across it while checking the history of which sites had been visited. Well, there it was describing herself as a tall, light brown skin, girl with a big butt! I was stunned. I cried for 3 days literally non stop. Evertime I thought about it I broke down. I cried more than she did and believe me I gave her something to cry about. Well, we busted her again sneaking on the computer. then night before last she was busted talking to a 16 year old at 1:30 in the morining. Which she met him on the computer. I called his house and talked to his mother and let her know that my daughter was only 12 and asked her to call me if my # showed up on her caller id again. I have talked and talked to her and I’m at my witts end. I don’t want her to make mistakes that she will definitely regret. I don’t know what steps to take. In two weeks we are going on a family trip and I asked my dad to keep her. I told her she wasn’t going. I really want her to know that she has to own up to what she did and there are conscequnces. She was very honest and I told her that if she wanted to talk to a boy that bad she should have come to me and aksed me was it ok. Of course I would have said hell no! Well, usually I don’t put my personal business on here but I need advice from all of you. Thanks!
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Hi Tanae, first let me say that I’m sorry that you’re having to
Man if we could only wave a magic wand and poof they were 20 years old.
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I would take her on the holiday and keep her close. Spend time with
her. I would put a tracking program on the computer. What about
checking with your local police and see if they offer any programs to
show teens the risks of meeting guys on the net. I saw an interesting
show the otherday about a young girl who met a guy on the net and when
the parents found out they took away her computer priviliges. Well she
just went to her friends and chatted there. So I would let her use your
computer but track it. Man those hormones are crazy @ that age. My
oldest nearly drove us crazy- crawling out window etc.
14 but we kept a close tab on her kept her busy working. and some how
she is now 18 grad school and we love her now. Just keep her busy with
family things if you can. Let her know when you feel she is ready for
boys and what age of boy is acceptable. I guess they just want to grow
up so fast. You sure did the right thing letting her know what she did
wrong. & good for you calling the boys family! I guess you just
have to keep talking and maybe do some research on articles on internet
and teens. I will keep you in my prayers.
Oh honey, I am sorry you are going through this and so early on….you are absolutely right to be worried….there are a lot of predators out there…I know this from my line of work.
Hi Tanae,
I have four grown daughters, and two grown sons, when they were younger we did not let them date until they were sixteen.
WOW..I’ll have to tell you that I’m not looking forward to that…my daughter is only 2 and I know those days will be here in a blink of an eye.
I do not blame you 1bit for being upset!!!!!
Try not to leave her too long.